For many people it is a challenge to hold boundaries and
not allow others to tramp all over them. They struggle to be assertive and to
hold their own. In these cases I often find that the aura – the energy bubble which
is our first boundary and enshrines our personal space – has lost its
integrity. It can be ripped, or
open at the top or saggy and deflated. In some cases a person may have pulled
it right back in close to the body.
Even more damaging is when the mind feeding on our anxiety
convinces us that the best solution to protecting ourselves is to build
barricades behind patterns such as inferiority, guilt, anger, shame and fear.
So now what boundary we do hold is around distortion and faulty beliefs about
who we are.
If this sounds familiar, there are actions you can take:
- Step One is to refuse to indulge and feed these distorted negative versions of self – stop listening with devoted attention to the mind’s addiction to fear.
- Step Two is to find and embrace your authentic self, drawing it out from behind the barriers, to love all that you are and accept your inalienable right to be all that you are.
- Step Three is to pump up your aura – fill your ‘bubble’ with light and energy and see it as a taut, blown up balloon. You can also put a mirror finish on the outside to bounce people’s negativity back at them. Then notice how the perceptions and therefore responses towards you change. (I have clients from the primary school play-ground to corporate meeting rooms benefiting from this latter technique.)
- Step Four – repeat 1-3 until they are your default position, honouring and holding the light you came here to shine!