Healing Power of Truth

Truth is a complex concept. Perhaps it would be easier if there were different words for the range of meaning available when we invoke the term ‘truth’. There is the absolute truth of 2x2=4. Then there is the subjective truth of the witnessing eye. Several witnesses to an event may offer wildly differing versions but be certain they are describing the truth. This is truth as filtered through each person’s mind and coloured by the experiences, prejudices and physical location of the individual.

 Extending beyond the detached witness, we come to the truth of the experienced event. This tends to be even more dependent upon the distorting filter of the personality, especially for the child. As this can be a serious block to a person’s healing I often work firstly to reveal the kernel of truth at the centre of their physical, emotional or spiritual dis-ease. So for instance an energy field reading may reveal,

  “When you were three you felt very sad and alone because your mother was no longer as attentive or emotionally available.”

  From the clarity of that deep seated 'true' feeling and the compassion we have for the suffering child, we can then start to unravel the massively destructive ‘untruths’ that have accumulated around the person’s interpretation of events. Hence,

 “But this wasn’t abandonment because you, the child, were bad or unworthy. The truth for your mother was that she wasn’t coping with the new baby/her father's death/your dad's drinking etc etc” 

  For many of us the most consistent ‘truth’ in our lives is that our commitment to a faulty belief in our own unworthiness has led to bad choices, unhappy relationships and/or work experiences and/or ultimately heath issues.

  I believe that we have a physiological connection to truth. And, therefore, through truth we have access to a wonderful tool for health and healing. The more time that we spend in a state of truthfulness with ourselves, the less our vibration tolerates ‘untruth’ either from our own ego or from those around us. This is a major step towards living consciously, truthfully and healthfully.
 Conversely it also means that ‘living a lie’ can literally make us sick and can throw us out of sync with the resonance of a healthy body. And indeed hiding a truth can be very destructive for individuals, families or organisations and institutions. It is like a festering boil - it may take a while to come to the surface but the truth will always out, one way or another.
  

The Devastating Voice of Suicide

  Very sadly some good friends of mine have recently had to deal with every parent’s worst nightmare, the suicide of their eldest son. The most heart breaking part of a heartbreaking ceremony to celebrate his life was seeing him as a bright eyed little boy, happy, engaged with his siblings, curious and excited; and knowing that somehow that had all been overwhelmed by a shadow that was just beginning to become visible in the later photos. 

  Unfortunately my friends are far from alone in having to deal with the shocking aftermath of suicide. the overall  suicide rate in Australia as based on 2015 figures equates to eight deaths by suicide each day.

  The reasons someone chooses to end their own life are myriad and complex. Victims, their stories, families and circumstances are of course incredibly varied. For some the external environment certainly is dangerous but for all of them their internal environment is the place that poses the greatest threat. The last voice they hear is their own. An angry, relentless, hope-less, fear filled, self-loathing and ultimately murderous voice. A voice that demands only one solution, that it be stopped.

  It’s a voice aided by today’s emphasis on the dichotomies of success and failure, as opposed to viewing life as a spectrum of experiences which are all worthy and useful chapters in our story. It is abetted by society’s impatience with the ‘different’. Its power can be dimmed somewhat by loving parents, supportive workmates or friends but, as my friends tragically discovered, their love and acceptance could not silence it. It also sets up vicious cycles on hormonal, chemical, emotional and energetic levels. 
  That’s why stopping that voice before it gets hold is so important and why showing primary school children (before the hormone storm hits) how to protect and honour themselves in their internal space should be taught at schools ahead of every other subject. Before all the information that they will likely never need in order to survive, teach teenagers how to befriend themselves and therefore subdue that voice that seeks to betray their very being.

The Unsustainable Game Plan

Several of my sessions recently have revolved around identifying what I’m calling the "Unsustainable Game Plan". The plan we came up with when young, that seemed to work so we’ve stuck with it. For instance, I’ll be everything to everyone, I will attack before I’m attacked, I’ll just adjust to everyone else, I will avoid conflict, I will achieve through fear of failure, I will expect the worst etc etc 

  When we put the plan in place we were protecting our inner self and if it worked for the first few times – especially in the battlefield that can be family and school friends - then we incorporated it as our go to game plan when we feel threatened or unsure.

  However the important word is ‘unsustainable’ because if it is designed to protect, then it is based on fear and is developed to hide an aspect of ourselves. It is also exhausting and as the purpose of soul evolution is to reveal our true selves, it will keep being challenged until it becomes completely obvious that the game plan is no longer working or worth pursuing. So maybe try the following.

1. Become conscious of your ‘game plan’. Think about what your automatic response is to a stressful situation or identify your default behaviour for getting on with people. 
2. Feel around it and follow the fear to its source e.g. I might rock the boat, I don’t want people to dislike me, what if I’m not needed, what if I fail? 
3. Have a very honest look at your win/loss ratio on this game plan e.g. I have lots of friends but I do everything for them, I am usually well prepared but spend my life in a state of anxiety, I keep the peace but have never felt heard, people don't challenge my opinions but no-one seeks me out for a friendly chat.
4. Finally thank the 'Junior' coach who came up with this game plan and then let the 'Adult' coach step up with a new, sustainable way of being that builds on the strength and clarity of hard earned wisdom and is based on a commitment to honour your true self.

The Pain Pantry

I have written before about the Mind Monster, that body of energy that is comprised of our most negative thoughts and that is all too often the nagging narrator of our lives. Something I’ve recently come to conceptualise is what I am calling the Pain Pantry. This is the place where we store the memory and energy of old pain or failure or of times we’ve been let down by others. When we feel low or upset or just for the hell of it, we go and pick a tasty morsel – marinated for years in anger or resentment - and bring it out to feed our Mind Monster. And boy does it love it!

   Certainly this can be a way of avoiding the pain of a current situation or of deflecting our pain onto others and is often the default setting of the hurt child. It is, however incredibly destructive. It helps underscore the ‘drama’ of the ego and reinforces our role as victims. It also generally results in us giving our power away; to the past, to the person who hurt us, or to the ‘out of control adult’ aspect of ourselves.

   Caroline Myss- medical intuitive and best-selling author puts it like this in her book Defy Gravity, Healing Beyond the Bounds of Reason. “Looking into your past to find information that gives you leverage to feel worse about your life or that allows you to feel entitled to make others suffer because you have suffered is a useless quest, much less a healing one. Wisdom is healing grace; not guilt, not fear, not the desire to go backward into agonizing over who hurt you so that you can tell them about it. Healing comes from gathering wisdom from past actions and letting go of the pain that education cost you.”

   So again it comes back to living consciously, being aware when we are heading off to that old Pain Pantry and seeing the futility and damage in that. And then we can pat ourselves on the back for just disappointing the Mind Monster which had been planning to make us miserable for days!!

We are All One

Given the events going on in the world at the moment I thought that I'd revisit a blog I wrote a few years ago about the idea that all of us in the human race are connected. It seems to be even more poignant and appropriate at this juncture in time when very big choices are being made by very powerful people. Choices which may well define the course of humanity and global interactions far into the future. Choices which we too have to make on the micro level every day, in every thought and every action. It is in that way we can reclaim our power and challenge the energy of fear being fed and manipulated by those who aim to 'divide and conquer'. Here is what I wrote in 2012:

 Despite being a deeply spiritual person, I am not a supporter of organized religion. As a child I went to church regularly but growing up in Northern Ireland during the 70’s and 80’s, I loved the ritual but not the hypocrisy. I enjoyed the sense of community but not the implicit separation from other communities my faith seemed to demand. Communities which, as I got older I realized, looked, sounded and suffered very much like mine.

Whist the ‘Troubles’ in Northern Ireland have ceased, it seems this message of separation and distrust of those who worship differently is more manifest in the world than ever. Why is it that around man's drive to understand the eternal questions of "Who are we?" and "Where do we come from?" we so often learn to find difference and choose separation?

The new higher vibrational energy coming through at the moment is very much focused on the fundamental concept that “We are all One.” It calls for a spirituality beyond the confines of man’s designs and structures and his need to separate, judge and set himself apart. It asks him to replace fear with trust.  Replace his continual search for power, with a meaningful search for connection. It invites each and every one of us to make connection with the “Source” on a personal and profound level. It also asks that we understand and honour our connection with all other people, regardless of their faith, race or political persuasion.  Quite simply “We are all one.”