Fifteen
years ago I gave birth to a chicken fillet, or at least that is what he looked
like. Ejected from my womb 13 weeks too early my 900g baby boy was scrawny,
wrinkly and – well - chook-like.
The
nurses advised that we needed to mourn for the image of a healthy, full-term baby
we had incubated smugly in our minds since deciding we were ready to start a
family. They should have added that at some point I would also have to forgive
myself and let go of the sense of failure.
Like
many crises we witnessed the best and worst of people: from the negativity of some of my work colleagues deciding not to have a collection “just in case”, to the
incredibly optimistic gift of a 1.8 metre height chart. There was the dedicated
medical staff and the wholly insensitive “Oh you’re lucky to have the hospital
looking after your baby while you are out and about”!
And
in fact there was the rub. With my first-born fighting for life in a hospital
incubator, I was “Mother” but how could people know. I stared at heavily
pregnant women and pushed past those with a pram of pastels, as for ten long
weeks we existed in limbo.
Then
there was the intimate relationship with an electric breast pump. Once I was
informed that the milk of a pre-term baby’s mother is constituted to provide the
fatty acids and antibodies that should have been delivered in utero, I was
obsessed. Occasionally now I try to perk the ’girls’ up by telling them they
once produced a litre a day!
Other
side-effects: I do feel an inordinate amount of pride when my six foot,
handsome teenager regularly consumes his birth weight in chicken fillets!
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